...consequences footnote

While talking to several friends yesterday, I think I finally figured out what I really mean to say regarding consequences:

I feel bad when people turn away from God because of mistakes I make. There have been times that I haven't responded the way someone expected me to as a member of a Christian church, and it further embitters them toward anything to do with religion. And in order to be able to live with myself after such circumstances, I have been led to a greater understanding of Agency. It could be seen as my refusing to take responsibility for my actions, but what I truly feel is that I'm refusing to take responsibility for THEIR actions.
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